How to Talk to Kids about Anything: Tips, Scripts, Stories, and Steps to Make Even the Toughest Conversations Easier (Paperback)
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A step-by-step guide to answering your kids' toughest questions
"When people die, where do they go?"
"Why is her skin darker than mine?"
"But how does the baby get in there?"
Don't panic. While we know that the first step to connecting deeply with our kids is being able to communicate, empathize, and answer their biggest queries, what do you do when that tricky-to-answer question comes out of the blue? Sometimes we just don't know what to say, so we simply change the subject or give a quick, throwaway answer—and hope it doesn't come up again. Dr. Robyn Silverman, host of the How to Talk to Kids About Anything Parenting Podcast, gets it. A child development specialist and mom, she'll stick with you every step of the way. In this book, Dr. Robyn takes you through the whole spectrum of kids' curious questions, giving you the strategies and scripts to prepare you for life's most challenging conversations. That way your kids get age-appropriate information straight from you, their trusted source, rather than from peers, the media, or the internet. You'll learn how to develop calm, well-thought-out answers to tricky questions on subjects including:
- And more!
Drawing on the expertise of dozens of well-known experts, Dr. Robyn's decades of working with children and teens, and her personal experience as a mom, How to Talk to Kids About Anything is a vital resource for parents who value having honest, meaningful conversations with their kids. When you just can't find the right words, this book will be your guide to talking to your kids about anything as they grow from toddlers to teens… and beyond.
Makes for a thoughtful gift for new parents!
"Dr. Robyn has created a step-by-step manual with real-life examples of what to say to children on any subject. Her scripts are actionable and essential. A sorely needed resource for parents" — Jessica Lahey, bestselling author of The Gift of Failure
"In today’s Internet-soaked culture, it has become not only important but imperative to be our children’s first source of information. In How to Talk to Kids About Anything, Dr. Robyn shows us how." — Michele Borba, bestselling author of Thrivers and Unselfie
"Dr. Robyn Silverman distills decades of research and experience and hundreds of expert interviews into a warm, wise, clear, and comprehensive guide that really does explain How to Talk to Kids About Anything. Reading this book feels like having an enjoyable conversation with a deeply knowledgeable friend. It’s a gift to parents everywhere." — Lisa Damour, PhD, author of Untangled, Under Pressure, and The Emotional Lives of Teenagers
"If you've ever chickened out of having a conversation with your kids about a topic like friends, money, sex, or divorce, this is the book for you. Dr. Silverman presents solid information on these and other touchy subjects, and then—through intriguing sections like Talking Points, Truth Bombs, and Scripts in a Pinch—she holds your hand as you imagine and prepare for the discussion with your child. A real parental anxiety reducer!" — Thomas W. Phelan, PhD, bestselling author of 1-2-3 Magic
"How to Talk to Kids about Anything is a treasure trove of advice, encouragement and comforting phrases that helps parents know what to say when their kids need them the most. Dr. Robyn’s suggestions reflect her compassion, firsthand experiences, and mastery of the child psychology/development research to produce a handbook that will help guide parents and make the most difficult conversations easier to have. " — Mona Delahooke, author of Brain-Body Parenting and Beyond Behaviors
"How to Talk to Kids About Anything is the definitive guide to having tough, critical conversations with children. Author Robyn Silverman's magic is her ability to simplify the most complex topics, including sex, body image, money, and divorce. Along the way, she offers parents all the scripts, tips, research, and tools they need to keep the lines of communication open and confidently answer their kids' most challenging questions. I can't overstate how much I love this book—it's a reassuring must-read for anyone who seeks to raise an emotionally healthy human being!" — Phyllis L. Fagell, LCPC, author of Middle School Matters and Middle School Superpowers
"Get ready to dog-ear lots of pages in How to Talk to Kids About Anything, a thoughtful and practical book that covers all bases for parents in need of talking points when kids have big emotions, ask tricky questions or make uncomfortable comments." — Nefertiti Austin, Amazon bestselling author of Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender, and Parenting in America
"Robyn Silverman’s steady, encouraging, and compassionate voice is just what parents and caregivers need. In How to Talk to Kids About Anything she provides both contextual science and a treasure chest of accessible conversational strategies, tips, and scripts for everyday topics such as friendship and money to tougher topics such as sex, death, and diversity. Readers can dip in to find a solution for their pain point du jour and come away with a feeling of agency and direction for their next conversation." — Christine Koh, PhD, co-author of Minimalist Parenting and host of the Edit Your Life podcast
"Robyn Silverman shares insights from a broad range of experts to help parents meet the many challenges of raising children." — Joanna Faber and Julie King, co-authors of How to Talk So LITTLE Kids Will Listen and How to Talk When Kids Won't Listen
"Robyn Silverman is a treasure, and this book is a great gift to parents and to professionals who talk with kids about hard things. Dr. Silverman combines her own experience as a development psychologist, as a mother, and even as a child with important research, and with the wisdom of the hundreds of professionals she has spoken to over the years about talking with kids. How to Talk is filled with language that will help adults communicate with children in ways that make them feel understood, loved, and safe. If you’ll ever need to talk with kids about sex, death, hard feelings, gender issues, or other difficult topics, this book is for you. You’ll keep coming back to it again and again as children bring you new challenges to discuss" — William Stixrud, Ph.D., co-author of The Self-Driven Child and What Do You Say? How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home
"Talking to our kids about tough topics is one of the hardest—and most important—parts of parenting. In her wise, thoughtful, and accessible book, Dr. Robyn Silverman walks readers through some of the most challenging conversations and offers the insights, strategies, and scripts we need to connect with our kids about everything from friendship and mistakes to divorce and death. I highly recommend this book to any parent looking for the right words at the right time—which is to say, all of us." — Carla Naumburg, PhD, author of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids
"It's hard to overstate how good this book is. If you've found yourself stuck or stammering in responding in the moment to those oh-so-important questions children seem to lob at you when your defenses are down… This. Is. The. Book. Imagine if Jiminy Cricket, Mr. Rogers, and ChatGPT got together to craft the truest words for the trickiest situations, all in one book. Yeah, How to Talk is that and more." — Ned Johnson, co-author of The Self-Driven Child and What Do You Say? How To Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home
"Dr. Robyn’s How to Talk to Kids About Anything joins the handful of evergreen parenting books that every parent should have at the ready and on their shelf—one that will be repeatedly referenced, dog-eared, and reused throughout the stages of childhood." — Tina Payne Bryson, LCSW, PhD, New York Times bestselling co-author of The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline, and author of The Bottom Line for Baby
"In How to Talk to Kids about Anything, Dr. Robyn has gifted parents with the ultimate “cheat sheet” so we can confidently engage in even the trickiest of conversations with our kids in a way that builds self-respect, agency, and connection." — Debbie Reber, founder & CEO of Tilt Parenting, author of Differently Wired